Are you a jealous person? Maybe you are and haven’t even realized it yet. Jealousy is a feeling that can become very toxic in one’s life. To know if you are jealous and to overcome it, you must first know what jealousy is.
Like any problem, or should we say “challenge” that you will be facing during your life, the first step towards overcoming them is to be aware that you actually have a “problem” or challenge. Being aware of it will help you accept it, and being more open minded to start seeking for help, solutions and becoming the best version of yourself. Here are a few questions you can answer to see if you might be feeling a bit of jealousy towards someone or something:
• Do you feel anger towards a specific person or situation?
• Do you feel resentment towards a specific person or situation?
• Do you feel disgust towards a specific person or situation?
If you answered yes to more than one of the questions above, it may signify that you are feeling jealous towards a specific person or situation. Now, let’s dig deeper and try to find out “where” does this feeling of: anger, resentment or disgust, comes from.
Finding the source of the feeling of jealousy:
• Do you feel insecure about certain aspects of your life? If you are, about which ones?
• Do you fear something or someone?
• Is there something that someone ha around you that you would like to have as well?
Now that you are aware that you have a feeling of jealousy, say it out loud and quote the reason why and the person from whom you are jealous. Example: I am jealous of Jessica because she has beautiful long shiny hair and I don’t.
The first step towards overcoming jealousy is accomplished! You have found: how you feel, and why you feel this way. The next step is to start finding ways to overcome it. You need to ask yourself: what would make me feel better? Do I want what she has? Do I want Jessica’s beautiful long shiny hair? If the answer is yes, you just found what you have to do to overcome jealousy. You either have to ask that person what she did to obtain what you are looking forward to have or achieve for yourself, or to make some research on your own.
Once you admit to yourself that you want what someone else has, you are no longer “jealous”, you are now “envious”, which is much better! Being envious is not a bad thing, because you are not lying to yourself, you admit openly that you do want what someone else has. Being envious is actually a healthy competition feeling to have, it will make you stand out of your comfort zone in order to achieve new goals and attain new heights.
Not only will you now reach your objectives and goals, you will also feel much better with yourself and others. When you are happy for others and seek for help, you feel much better than when you hate against others and talk or think bad about them.
Personal development always starts by analyzing yourself, in other words, by doing some introspection. The true key to happiness is to love yourself and others, and in order to love others, you must start by loving yourself. There are many different ways to work on your personal development and to become the best version of yourself. Amongst them you can turn towards: life coaching, inspirational and motivational books, quotes and movies.